I believe the mind, body, and soul are the three lenses through which we view the world and dictate our emotional response following traumatic events. In order to assist those going through a crisis, my method of mental health recovery combines spiritual, psychological, and physical practices.
Serving as the director of The Motivating Youth Company and as a Pastor of Youth and NexGen Ministries, I have spent the last 15 years working with children, teens, young adults and their families. About 11 years ago, I came to the realization that there was a more proper and holistic approach alongside spirituality to help a child find balance and motivation after a crisis, significant setbacks or unfavorable situations. This revelation inspired me to obtain my Masters in Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology in order to gain a deeper understanding of the human brain from a psychological perspective.
A family I met with in 2015 asked for biblical counseling and advice on forgiveness. Scripture, of course, teaches us that prayer is a constructive and useful spiritual tool for mediation and forgiveness. But it was evident to me that their issues extended beyond practical spirituality. I discovered that this family had recently lost the youngest child in the home to suicide, which caused this family strife and toxic discord. I could see that the underlying reason for their blame and animosity toward one another was that they hadn't properly grieved or processed the loss.
Another problem I frequently encounter from people looking for spiritual direction and counsel is a psychological concept known as "cognitive dissonance." When people's behavior patterns don't align with their true needs and desires, this mental conflict arises (Psychology Today, 2019). I frequently come across children, teenagers, and young adults who admits to having drug, alcohol, and/or porn addictions and are looking for support to overcome those problems. "I want to start, but I can't," or "I want to stop, but I can't," are the phrases they often use. I frequently find that this erratic behavior is linked to a mental health problem that requires both spiritual and practical psychology to address.
I believe the mind, body, and soul are the three lenses through which we view the world and dictate our emotional response following traumatic events. In order to assist those going through a crisis, my method of mental health recovery combines spiritual, psychological, and physical practices.
When kids go to therapy, they are frequently dealing with difficult feelings, perplexing ideas, or trying circumstances that they might not feel comfortable talking about with their parents or anyone else. Confidentiality is therefore an essential component of the therapeutic process. However, even when parents are worried about their child's welfare, it can occasionally be hard for them to comprehend why a therapist must keep some information confidential from them. Confidentiality must be upheld, though, in order to build trust, encourage self-expression, and support the child's personal growth. Here are some reasons why therapists ought to protect children's privacy, even if it means keeping some information from parents:
1. Establishing Safety and Trust
Children should feel free to express their deepest feelings and thoughts in therapy without worrying about criticism or negative consequences. Children need to trust their therapist and have confidence that their words will be kept confidential in order to open up. It might be a betrayal of trust and deter the child from being forthcoming in subsequent sessions if therapists disclosed private information to parents without the child's permission. Children may shut down, hide crucial information, or refuse therapy entirely out of fear that their parents will learn everything.
2. Encouraging Self-Sufficiency and Expression
Children are learning how to control their emotions and gaining a sense of independence, particularly as they get older. Therapy is a crucial setting for this growth since it gives them a safe space to examine their ideas. Therapists who maintain confidentiality empower kids to take responsibility for their emotions and choices. Additionally, it can help kids gain self-assurance in their capacity to manage challenging circumstances independently, which is essential for normal emotional and psychological development.
3. Promoting Honest Communication with the Counselor
Children may withhold crucial information about their lives if they believe that their parents are aware of everything they say. These might include things like bullying, depressive symptoms, or identity issues that they worry will cause them to argue with or be judged by their parents. Children are encouraged to be more forthcoming with their therapist when their disclosures are kept private because they know that their words won't be shared with anybody else without their consent. By addressing underlying issues that might not otherwise be disclosed, the therapist is able to offer the best support possible.
4. Preserving the Welfare of the Child
Children may occasionally be in emotionally upsetting or even dangerous circumstances at home or at school. These could include bullying, abuse, or family dynamics, and telling parents about them could inadvertently put the child in a risky or vulnerable situation. Confidentiality in situations like these enables the therapist to more accurately evaluate the circumstances and take the necessary actions to safeguard the child's welfare. It's critical that therapists are able to speak candidly with kids without worrying about causing harm by revealing private information too soon.
5. The Advocate Role of the Therapist
The main responsibility of a therapist is to act in the child's best interests. They are taught to listen to kids without passing judgment and to create a safe environment in which they can freely express themselves. Therapists can collaborate with parents or guardians in situations where a child's safety and emotional development may be in jeopardy while maintaining confidentiality. Without revealing all that was discussed in therapy, this could entail making recommendations for interventions, family counseling, or assisting parents in understanding their child's needs. This subtle approach guarantees that the therapist serves as a resource for the parents and a reliable ally for the child.
6. Honoring the Child's Independence
Children should be respected for their thoughts, feelings, and experiences in the same way that adults are entitled to privacy. Children still have the right to emotional autonomy, even though parents are ultimately in charge of their wellbeing. Therapists affirm that a child's inner world is valuable and deserving of respect by maintaining the confidentiality of some disclosures. By teaching kids that their emotions are real and that they should be heard and understood, this can help them develop a sense of dignity and self-respect.
7. Balancing the Involvement of Parents
Parents should be appropriately involved in their child's therapy, even though therapists are required to keep some information private. Therapists can frequently involve parents in treatment plans or give general updates without betraying the child's trust. Therapists, for instance, can work with parents to support their child's emotional needs, provide parenting guidance, or recommend family activities that encourage constructive dialogue. Finding a balance between safeguarding the child's privacy and making sure parents are knowledgeable enough to offer suitable support is crucial.
8. Legal and ethical consideration
Therapists are required to adhere to ethical and legal guidelines in order to preserve confidentiality. These rules aid in making therapy a secure and productive environment for kids. Children may occasionally be able to give their own consent for therapy, depending on the jurisdiction, and confidentiality is an important part of this process. To make sure they are upholding the rules that safeguard the child's best interests and fulfilling their ethical duties to their clients—both adults and children—therapists must carefully navigate these laws.
In conclusion
Children must feel that their privacy and emotional safety are respected during therapy. A crucial component of the therapeutic process is maintaining confidentiality, even from parents. It promotes open communication, builds trust, safeguards the child's wellbeing, and helps the child grow into a self-assured, independent adult. Always putting the child's best interests first, therapists must carefully balance maintaining confidentiality with involving parents. In the end, confidentiality is essential to successful therapy because it gives kids the room they require to recover, develop, and flourish.
Recently, I ended a counseling session that involved a young man and his sister that were on extreme medication, in and out of mental hospitals, and still couldn't control their anger, anxiety, and addictive behavior patterns.
After 10 sessions over the last 2 months they are passing in class again, haven’t been kicked out of class and have begun treatment for their addictions. As of today, you can tell they are overall happier and functioning at a higher quality!
N SPIRIT & IN TRUTH (John 4:24) Applies to both encountering Christ and in understanding, healing, and recovery when dealing with our personal lives, brain and soul (1 Thessalonians 5:23)
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